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Tough decision

February 7th, 2007 at 02:28 pm

My daughter has been taking piano lessons for over a year, and has been in a rut for several months. She's not enjoying it and really does not want to do it anymore. I am trying to teach her when someone decides to do someyhing, they need to stick with it. But on the other hand, it's wasted money if she is only 'going thru the motions'. We have bought her a good used piano, the lessons are not cheap, and it's over an hour round trip. I just don't know.
Everythig I had to do yesterday is on the agenda for today b/c I had to get a sick child from school.

7 Responses to “Tough decision”

  1. monkeymama Says:
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    That's a tough one. You don't know how many times growing up i Wanted to quit piano, but my parents made me stick with it and we are all happy with that decision now.

    BUT if she really hates it, no need to push her. For me it was just phases. I don't know. Tough decision... Seeking out a different teacher might help though - someone who can motivate her, make it more interesting, etc.

    I stuck with 1 teacher for about 20 years - she was strictly classical - I think looking back I would have learned much more studying under different teachers. Which I did in a way because she had different assistants at different times, etc. Only way I ever got to do anything fun. Wink

  2. princessperky Says:
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    I think a break might help... but also, not all people are supposed to be pianists....can you find if she has other interests? was the decision to start mostly you or mostly her? was it mostly unknown sure why not, and now, known and not so cool? Or did she pester you and love it, untill recently? Is it a begging to quit or more lazyness?

    Do you have a contract or can you stop at any time?

    Have you thought of offering to cancel lessons if she still practices? If she agreees you might find the drive and teacher are the problem not the piano, sub a nice lesson book for a time and look for a closer one (try a church, a member who plays might take on a short lesson relativly cheap)

  3. Ima saver Says:
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    My mother made me take lessons and I hated it. Once I quit, I never played again.

  4. homebody Says:
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    My daughers were the same as Ima. Took lessons for about 10 years, on my childhood piano, teacher lived two houses away. They are now 28 and 26 and don't seem to care at all. They never touched the piano after the lessons stopped. PS I still have the piano just in case the grandkids (nonexistent at this point) want to take lessons.

  5. fairy74 Says:
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    I also was forced to take piano lessons, which I did not enjoy at all. I would agree with the advice to give your daughter a break. If she has made a good effort, maybe it is just not a long-term interest or maybe someday she'll go back to it. It does seem like a waste of money if she is not into it right now. Let her try some other things, while I hated piano, I loved the violin and cello and still play both occasionally...

  6. fern Says:
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    If she doesn't like piano, perhaps she would like to try a different instrument, or a sport. Let her pick something else.

  7. LuckyRobin Says:
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    I think a year is long enough to go as follow through when deciding to do something. I know a good used piano can be pricey but it also holds its value well on the resale market. You could probably sell it for what you bought it for.

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