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I don't know what to do

January 9th, 2009 at 06:23 am

My stepfather recently passed away . My mother was married to him for nine years. When she called last Friday to tell me I rushed out the door to be by her side. The three hour drive seemed to take an eternity. We stayed the week and my kids missed four days of school.

I feel helpless. I want to help her, but feel I'm doing nothing. I wan't to make it all better, but cant.

We just got back yesterday, and are going back today to help out with paperwork (and emotional support).

6 Responses to “I don't know what to do”

  1. Myrtle Says:

    I am sorry for your loss. When my Dad died, I was pretty depressed myself because it was unexpected and happened quickly. What I did do was call my mother every day to talk. We talked a lot about Dad and lots of other things. I did my best to let her talk and get back to laughing and living. I would suggest just being there for her, either in person, on the phone, email etc. It will help you too!! Take care.

  2. MICLASON Says:

    ((hugs)) There isn't much you can "do" do, but be there, as Myrtle says...and, although it doesn't feel like you're doing much, it does help!

  3. gamecock43 Says:

    yeah thats a tough spot. Being there to help with paperwork and guide her through the process of funeral and decisions is all you can do right now. I suggest she not make any lifestyle or big decisions right now- and not for several months to maybe a year. Just let the dust settle before deciding anything about money, moving or big changes. good luck.

  4. mom-sense Says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Just being there will help your mom a lot.

  5. Koppur Says:

    I'm sorry for your loss.

  6. Broken Arrow Says:

    I am very sorry to hear that. Please take care of yourself and I'm sure your mom will appreciate it enough with you simply being there.

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