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March 29th, 2008 at 11:51 pm

Let me start by saying my oldest son (13 yrs.) was invited by a friend to stay at the lake this weekend. I talked it over with his dad and we agreed it would be okay. Well, he got packed and was waiting to be picked up. During this time I talked about being responsible, etc. He agreed. Now let me back up and say this is a good kid. Honor roll and all, takes care of his momma when shes not feeling well...very grown up for his age.

Well, lo and behold, I came around the corner and he had just taken two cigarettes out of my purse! AAAHHH! I asked what he was doing and he said he was getting them for his friends brother (who is 16). He then started freaking out asking me not to tell his friends mom. What? He was more worried about his friend than himself? This all is just so unbelieveable. I told him he was stealing from me, and also there is the trust issue. Don't know what to do. I told him we would discuss it later (when I get it all straight in my mind.)

Sorry about the rant. Just had to get it off my chest.

11 Responses to “Um... WOW!”

  1. luxlivingfrugalis Says:
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    ohhhh, I would be hard pressed to let him go on the trip. That's just me though...

  2. disneysteve Says:
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    That trip would have been history and he'd be off for a drug test including nicotine. I wouldn't buy that "I'm taking them for a friend" garbage for a second.

  3. littlemama Says:
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    Steve, I know my kid isn't taking drugs, but the "cigarettes are for a friends brother" has me worried. BTW, how do they test for nicotine? Hair analysis? And do you know how long it takes for the results?

  4. Nic Says:
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    You know your son better than anyone...perhaps he was taking them for a friend,it isn't that unusual... especially since he was more afraid of his friends mom finding out..and not too upset that you busted him stealing. I would be more concerned about that.

  5. littlemama Says:
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    Thanks Nic. He really is a good kid. That's why I was so shocked. The trust thing is what really bothers me tho.

  6. homebody Says:
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    He took them to try them out while at the lake. They were for him and his friend. Who are we kidding. Good kid or not, apparently YOU smoke, so he wanted to try it. ha ha. Didn't we all do something like that? My parents didn't smoke, but I got caught at a friend's house by her mother, the cigs came from her older sister. I thought for sure she was going to tell my mom and was scared to death...she didn't.

    P.S. Have never smoked other than "experimenting" as a kid.

  7. Broken Arrow Says:
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    You said your son is 13 years old eh? I think that's too young to ask him what he thinks he should do.... I would cancel his trip and inform his friend's parents what he did. This friend obviously needs a moral compass adjustment. But that's just me.

  8. fern Says:
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    hmmm. all good advice here i think.

    yeah, the trust thing would bother me, but what about the smoking thing?? I guess it would be hard to lecture him about that if he took them from you, and this is a shame. I picked up smoking as a teen and am SOO glad i quit 4 years later, in college. It's one of the worst things you can do to your body.

  9. Amber Says:
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    Don't be in denial, I know you said your son is a great kid but even those kids stray some times.You'll be surprise what good kids do when their parents aren't around. I agree, the trip would have been history and I think sitting down with all the kids who are supposely involved and their parents is the best way. However, be careful because some people really take offense when their kid is accused of something...good luck

  10. littlemama Says:
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    Okay, I'm not in denial. I remember what I did as a kid. We are all only human. We all make mistakes. His dad doesn't even know yet as he has been out of town. We will discuss everything today, and go from there. Thank you everyone for all the comments.

  11. homebody Says:
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    Good luck LM.

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